A situationship is casual dating with no firm commitment. Like a f*ck buddy but instead of just meeting up after a night out, you get to know each other on a more personal level. People usually get into sitationships when one person isn’t ready or willing to commit.

A question that has been playing on my mind since I have been back home is “Can you turn a siutationship into a relationship?” Back when I was living in London, I met a guy and I instantly fell for him. I love telling the story of how we met. I was out for a drink with my friend, he walked over (from the street) and asked if he could swap a packet of crisps for my number. What a story to tell the grandkids.

We got on so well, but as soon as he started to open up to me or get feelings, he distanced himself. This on-and-off situation continued for over a year. The reason I kept going back to him (despite my friends telling me otherwise) was because deep down, I knew he liked me. He was just scared to open up and of the risk of possible heartbreak.

We reconnected a few weeks before I went travelling, but at that point, it was too late. I had already quit my job and booked a flight to Thailand. We kept in contact throughout my travels, he kept asking me when I was coming home… when I let him know I was home he didn’t seem to fused to see me so I didn’t push anything.

When I got home from my weekend in London, he told me that he missed me and wanted to see me. But also questioned if I had been with others since I was away. I asked him what he wanted – just date or keep it casual. Obviously, it was the latter. This made me think – could we ever be anything more? And I don’t think we could. I don’t think that a situationship can ever turn into a relationship.

He will just see me as casual fun because we met at a time that he wasn’t willing to commit. The only way that I personally feel that it could work would be to start again, from the beginning. And why waste time with someone who doesn’t treat you right straight away? One day he will realise what he lost, but I will no longer be waiting around.